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Finding Real Love in a Virtual World

Do not let the title of this article mislead you. Although finding love online is both possible and worthy of discussion, it is not the subject at hand here. Finding true love in a virtual world is about more than just meeting a compatible person with whom to create a lasting relationship. It is about more than finding the right kind of website to provide you with relationship advice. It is about reaching out to find love when most of your time is spent in front of a computer screen, chatting on a Bluetooth device, or texting messages back and forth.

We all know that it is hard to find love, and even harder to find a commitment. Whether you meet your mate the conventional way (boy sees girl, boy likes girl, boy dates girl), or a less predictable way (boy joins online dating service, boy likes girl's profile, boy asks to meet girl in person), a relationship that is as romantic as it is committed takes time and effort. Although you do not need to spend every waking hour thinking of how to keep your love fresh and exciting, you do need to pay attention to the details of life that may get in the way of your burgeoning relationship. Remember, even the most passionate of loves can fall prey to the distractions of the digital world.

The virtual world of the internet is everywhere: in your office, in your home, in your car, and in your purse. This kind of immediate access to information and emails is great for a number of things. You can drop a quick line to work to let them know that you are running behind this morning (you and your love had better things to do!). You can send your date a text message detailing the time and place of the evening's plans. You can even spice up your relationship by sending your mate a brief message of love. However, at the same time, this kind of technology means that your blind date can cancel at the last minute. Your work can interrupt you in the middle of a date. Your mother can call you at an even more inopportune time than ever before!

Love can be as stunted by the virtual age as much as it can be helped along by it. The trick is knowing when to turn off all the outside interruptions of emails, text messages, and phone calls. For starters, work should never encroach on a date or an evening out. If you want to give your new love a chance, interruptions should only be allowed by emergencies.

Turn the phone off and remove the Bluetooth headset. You should also never pull your attention away from your date for the "more pressing" needs of the virtual world. If you stop by your house to grab a sweater before you take a romantic walk around the neighborhood, resist the urge to check your email before you go.

Although these may seem like simple, commonsense rules, it is important to realize that the digital world can easily encroach on any love affair. To make that relationship work right from the start, create limits for yourself and for your new love so that the two of you are always the primary focus when you are together. You, and your love, deserve it.

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Caterina Christakos is the author of the Seduction Game for Women. To learn the art of attracting men the classy way go to: seductiondiva.com

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