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The Difference Between Actual Rejection and the Fear of Rejection When Dating

I think it's important to realize that there's a big difference between actual rejection (having a girl who is offended, upset, rude, etc. to you when you start talking to her) and the fear of rejection (how you feel when you imagine a woman rejecting you).

I've found that for me personally, my fear of rejection is actually far, far more painful and difficult to deal with than actual rejection in the real world.

The main reason for this is that most of the time when a man starts talking to a woman, she is actually rather nice about the whole affair.

Men aren't "rejected" very often!

If a woman isn't interested, she usually just says "I have a boyfriend" or "No thank you"... or she'll just walk away without saying anything at all.

Out of the hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of times that I've approached women, I can't remember any time that a woman has yelled "Get away from me you loser! You are unattractive and the very thought of going on a date with you makes me sick to my stomach!"

I'm sure it's happened to someone, but it's never happened to me.

The worst I've had is a woman making fun of the words I used (telling me that my pickup line was lame) or just walking away.

No slaps, no boyfriends beating me up, and no yelling.

But here's the kicker...

You can experience an intense fear of rejection every time you consider approaching a woman.

Imagine, something you can predict with almost perfect accuracy.

You can be in any situation, anywhere, anytime, and still have fear of rejection... which will prevent you from approaching a woman. Ah, the power of the human mind.

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